I’m so glad this thread has come up. It has helped me confront this issue and talk openly about it for the first time. This has been really difficult for me. I’ve even considered professional counselling. My problem is, whilst I do have a full set on each side, I only have 6 on top!
But now I can see the bigger picture. At least I’m not carrying all that extra weight of water sloshing around on top of my duratec and a full set at the sides and 6 on top does kind of match my head.