Hi meabh,
My car's a 4/4 2006 build but I'm sure the p4 relays are in a similar position as mine......
....behind the dash, high up, just left of the steering column when looking forward. Use a mirror to see them. Unless slim wristed and mobile detach the dash to change.
Hope this helps.
If he decides to look behind the dash for relays, an,d has no spare ones. available, suggest he checks by substitution...swap the extreme left hand (Start) relay with the extreme right hand one (high. speed fan) and see if it will start then.
