Did you actually try hypnotherapy Bonesie? It's true it may not work for everyone but it can be effective for many.
I suffered from a debilitating phobia for most of my life and found myself with an urgent need to rid myself of it. Two sessions with a hypnotherapist and it was gone. I was sceptical but it was my last resort and I'm a convert now. I think it's a shame there isn't more scientific study into how the process works.