Yes Richard, your hand holding made it possible. And my not giving up. It all came together very quick. 5-10 minutes . After 2 years. This maybe helpful. I surmised switching out relays as diagnostics…. May be a flawed. Approach if there’s an underlying issue in feed. Only say that cause I had blown fuse ( main relay 20 amp) all of a sudden as I proceeded this morning? I tend to think activating the bad feed , AND bad relay then caused fuse blow ?
Just a deeper tech note. The dealer suggested relay swap and a few other people here. Bottom line is one should test relays actually, not via swap .
Re pin issues - maybe helpful. Pin not burned , looked like it was mislined. Female resisted male , and fuss corrosion (tannish). Very hard to separate connector initially .
ALL issues started to correct 👍🏼
Have lock on main now via stalk , dip lights , fog, rear , all idiot lights including fog .
Thanks again to everyone, even Richard ! Lol 😂 I’m pretty darn capable technically/electrical…. But the encouragement was the real magic . Im still in shock I did /found it . Im walking around now, feeling like I need something new to obsess / worry badly about ! Ha I just reassembled the car . All good